• RG

    Your father sounds nice. Hope you realize lots of dreams and find great happiness! He will always be with you.

    • greaseandglamour

      Thank you so much, RG. :)

  • http://www.pichandroor.blogspot.com Waverly

    Thank you so much for sharing this story! It gave me goosebumps & truly reminded me how blessed I’ve been so far with my health. Cancer took my Grandpa, and it truly is the worst & so freaking relentless :( I know that your father is looking over you & that he’s really proud! Have a wonderful time in Iceland, can’t wait to see more pictures from your trip.

  • http://geekinwhite.tumblr.com geek in white

    Such an inspiring story. I lost my dad 7 years ago quite suddenly, which really hurts as he has never spent a day in the hospital in his entire life. Ever since then I’ve taken some leap and risk.. altho some of the things you mentioned in the last paragraph are still pending. Wishing you a wonderful journey with your dad :)

  • Christine

    Thank you for this post. My parents live the exact life you outlined above for your parents. The dry cleaners, 7AM – 7PM work hours, all of it. I hope to be able to give them opportunities to fulfill their bucket list just as they did for me, for all these years. I wish you and your family all the best as you continue onward.

  • Jon

    Jesus Christ. This was so beautiful.

    Thank you for sharing your story. Your father was a wonderful man.

  • jenny

    Thankyou for your courage and honesty in this very painful life event of your fathers death, I feel moved by you words
    and feelings and I know your father Is very proud of you, keep loving the memories it keeps him close to you

  • Julie

    Beautiful essay. Your dad is still around, you know. He is so proud of you! Thank you for sharing your experience so eloquently with the world.

  • re

    i just lost my mother a month ago now…. it’s very sad and every day is a hard battle to keep moving on…. so thanks for your post because it was like a little sparkle of inspiration in my day….. sorry for my english i’m from brazil and don’t speak your language very well but had to say thanks to you….

  • Mandy

    It’s can be so hard to share such honest words and thank you for your bravery, courage, and your story.

    There’s sorrow but also joy in your words. That is the most beautiful thing. Bless you.

  • Queenie Lee

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Beautiful words! xxx

  • Nini

    It is not cool to photoshop your pics and make up a story like that. your dad wont be proud of you for that. shame on you.

    • Be Nice

      Hey Nini – do you feel good about yourself now? You can see her friend’s video montage of their trip here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=monyiTNcKPU. See how it shows her unfolding the cutout of her father, and how the cutout has lots of white around it that needed to be photoshopped out by her photographer friend so the pictures made it seem that he, her recently deceased and totally beloved father, was really on a magical trip with her? So that a heartbroken daughter could remember that his presence is still with her, even though he no longer is? Shame on YOU, you mean bully. You’re a jerk.

  • Sarah

    I lost my dad two months ago. he was diagnosed 8 years ago. No one, besides you and maybe Joan Didion, has been able to put into words what life felt like during the days at the hospital with the constant tests. At some point, I knew my way around the Oncology ward better than the home I grew up in. He spent so much time in the hospital towards the end. And, even when they took him off of everything — and we (including him) decided it was time for the body to “do its thing” — it still took a full day, even when the doctors said it would take mere hours. He was a fighter too. and loved to golf too. and had a family business (men’s suit store in south jersey). Your story is very familiar to me, so thank you for being brave and writing it. The only thing you can do is surround yourself with love. From one stranger suffering to another, I wish you many moons of love.

  • Bob DePlachett

    Very inspirational. You’re amazing person, Jinna. Take care and enjoy all that you do.

  • SAllen

    So well written. I lost my dad to cancer (Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma) in Dec. 2010. Life hasn’t been the same and won’t be. He was my rock, my confidante, my best friend. Cancer is a total asshole!

  • George T D-a

    you have one of the greatest dads in this world…. :'(

  • Jono

    Very inspirational tribute to your father, I have had a few close people taken away from my life due to Cancer, wishing you all the best in your future!

  • Chanel Smith

    This is a touching story, I almost cried in my cubicle but held it together :) This is proof as to how talented you are, bc despite your quirky and sometimes brash writing style, this post is so incredibly intimate and endearing–your adoration for your father is palpable …thank you for sharing :)

  • Sandy Chau

    Thank you for sharing your story, it made me teary. Bob’s an ass, but you have one of the most amazing fathers, he sounds like an awesome person.
    Continue fullfilling your dreams, happiness will always find you :)

  • Audrey

    I balled my eyes out reading this… Everybody needs to read this.. I know there are so many people out there just like me that take life for granted.. We are so busy with these meaningless tasks that we forget to stop and smell the roses.. Thank you so much for this. I know your dad is so proud of you. He is an inspiration to us all and it is beautiful how you carry on his legacy. God bless

  • Leo

    Very moving. I wish you all the best for the future. Take care.

  • Jorge M.

    I just finished the story of your trip with your dad at CNN. It is touching story, thanks for sharing it with the world. Reading now your blog, the story comes to full circle. You had a great relationship with your father that is taking you to continue your journey in this world. I am pretty sure that was his objective in life – that you pursue your dreams and to be an example to others. Thank again and I hope your travels with him, keep bringing you joy and peace.

  • The Buddha

    Thank you for this amazing inspirational post.. Your father sounds like an amazing person….. I am wishing you only the best….

  • Rosa Lopez

    You are so amazing. Your families story is so much like a lot of minorities. I hope that many people get motivated by this. It’s a shame that people like me who were born and raised here by parents who were born and raised here can’t see life the way you and your family do. A lot of us are lazy or grew up so disfunctional, never having the teachings u and ur father did in the household. I believe in you and I don’t even know you. I believe everything you say is straight from your heart and not just words to be heard but words to be felt. You should look into writing a book. My sister is a victim of sexual abuse by the hands of our father and only now has the courage to let her story out so the world can know. She’s 37 and one of the most amazing women I’ve got the chance to know.

  • John

    I knew your dad when he ran Elegance Fabricare. I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad was kind, gentle and exuded charisma. After reading your blog, I now appreciate how special he was. I feel honored to have known him. God bless you and your family!

  • kiki

    Thank you so much for sharing this story, it hit right in the feels. Bless your father, you, and this message you have to send. Im grateful for your words and fortunate to have been able to stumble upon them.

  • http://balletomanehk.com Louisa Hansen

    Your post is so touching. I can really relate to your experience, as my own dad also died of cancer and it has led to an awakening inside me ever since.

    Just want to share with you my story, so that you don’t feel alone in this; http://wp.me/p1HqqC-4s

  • jane

    dear jinna,

    you probably don’t remember me because of our age difference, but i remember your father from TKBC. although this is late, i’m so sorry for your loss, but i’m encouraged by your creativity to create new memories with your father through your travels. i hope you and your family are doing well, and pray for peace and comfort for you as i’m sure the loss still stings at times, even with the passage of time.

    jane lee (formerly lim)

  • BG

    I just came across your story on CNN.com and I was so moved. Then I came across this tribute to your father. What a wonderful way to honor his memory. I lost my father back in 2007 and it was so difficult, having an outlet is so important. I am sorry for your loss. I actually just went to Iceland, such a beautiful and interesting country. All the best.

  • Gloria Galindo Azcarate

    Im I’m so amazed By your story! I feel identify about just everything. My relation with my father, his attitude about his illness and life, he teaching me about telling the people that I love that o love them, live my life as Good as I can.. ( my father also died a 24 Of august). Thanks you for sharing your beutiful story… It make my day.. Keep growing!! Youre amazing

    • aluba1 .

      My father died 07/27/2013 I am writing this post on 03/01/2015. I am actually in more pain now than on the day he passed but that was because I knew my mother, sisters, uncle, friends, in fact our entire community and blood- brother would all be looking towards me ( I was a single child of my parents, well at least as far as I knew until 1994 when my brother was born, eventually the count came down to 2 sisters Eden & Mekdes, and my youngest brother Zemas). And I tried my goddamn best, after all I was the “smartest” person in the family, the most talented and privileged person in my family (excluding Z he loves me for me, asshole or saint his devotion and patience as the youngest member of this family have been awe inspiring, he is worth more than any paycheck, his honesty and sincerity are the hallmarks of what our society should be growing towards, not just the lobbyist influenced, and corporatization we have settled for receiving from our delusional “transparent government” and “emergency stimulus”. The only emergency I see in America is the fact that people like me and my family have no problem leaving here to find a nation which supports our true values, and accepts us for who we are with pride. but I will never love someone like I loved my father and eventually I had to deal with the reality that he was gone, no more advice, no more uplifting speeches, just his absolute confidence and love for me. PLEASE TRUST ME WHEN I SAY MY FATHER WAS THE KIND OF MAN WHO NATIONS SHOULD BE PROUD OF MUCH LESS A SON BORN IN A REFUGEE CAMP, AND HE HAD A WAY OF LESSENING MY IMMEDIATE PAIN AND COMFORTING HIS HOSPICE PATIENTS AND THEIR FAMILIES. HE RAN THE RACE IN THE MOST HONORABLE WAY I CAN IMAGINE AND HE NEVER SACRIFICED HIS BELIEFS, CONVICTIONS, HOPES, AND STRONG FAITH IN GOD FOR THE SAKE OF SOCIAL CONVENTION OR CONFORMITY. Dad I love you, respect you, and have always known what a blessing it is to be called your son. Thank you for 28 years of guidance,YOU ARE THE BEST MAN I HAVE EVER KNOWN AND THE BEST MAN I WILL EVER KNOW. Before you passed I was afraid of death, I didn’t even want to talk about or contemplate it. Now I know there is something greater waiting for me and I can pour all of my energy into making you truly proud when we meet again. ALL PRAISE SHALL GO TO THE LORD ON HIGH AND THE MARTYRDOM OF CHRISTIANS UNDER THE INSANITY AND EVIL OF ISIS, THE MUSLIM BROTHERHOOD, IRAN, IRAQ, LIBYA, AND EVEN THE DESOLATE REACHES OF AFGHANISTAN.

      With All The Love Available To Me,


  • renzo abruzzese

    Tu papá debe estar tan orgulloso de ti, y debe haber disfrutado tanro de tu viaje, que estara ahora mas feliz que nunca, poruqe el amor de una hija vale todo elmoro del universo. Eres una hija perfecta. Yo tengomuna hija de tu edad. Felicitaciones

  • Snoopy78251

    Thank you for sharing your Father’s story and your story with the world. As sad as it was to read and know that his life was cut short it is beautiful to see what you are doing in his memory. I am happy to see that instead of burying yourself in sadness you have chosen to LIVE!!! What a lovely way to honor the man that inspires you daily.

  • John

    God bless and continue your quest…I’m a writer from the US who’s lived most my life in Asia (now in Shanghai)…keep fight adversity with a smile on your face

  • allie

    My dad passed about a month and a half ago from brain cancer, and reading your post was the first time I found someone outside of my family who seems to understand what cancer does and is, so thank you

  • BB

    So touched. Thank you for sharing.

  • Julie

    I recently lost my awesome dad to cancer as well. It has turned my world upside down and like you I want to make the most of the time I have and sail the world on a boat as he always dreamed of doing. Stay strong!

  • Kay Webb

    You are an amazing young lady, and you dad is so proud of you, no doubt………….good job at moving on, but not forgetting…

  • http://www.thekobaga.blogspot.com/ Aga Kobaga

    Well it is really a sad history, but things like this happened. I understand you perfectly. My mother was in your father’s age and she passed away in October,12th 2011 because of the skin cancer. She was only 51. So sad and I can not accustomed.

  • Ana

    I was touched by your story, have many points in common. My father died in August because of a cancer, he was 51 years and the dream of visiting Paris. Eighteen years later, he went to France, the best way to honor him, I walked the streets as if he were present, went to places that I imagine he would have gone.

  • Heather Christopher

    Hi Jinna,
    Isn’t funny in life how sometimes you stumble upon a story similar to your own & in a way it gives you a comfort like none other? I lost my father in 2005, from stomach cancer – he died in less than 8 months and had just turned 50. He gave me my love of travel and I made a last minute decision to decline the scholarship for a degree in special education to becoming a travel consultant…and here I am, 8 years later! :) Love your comeback, I have no doubt that your Dad is SO proud. XOXO, Heather (www.heatherchristophertravel.blogspot.com

  • kristin marvin

    Your writing is beautiful. I came to peek from a Bloglovin’ email. Saw your travel article and then read about your dad. You are a strong young woman and have a knack for this blogging and writing. Keep on and God Bless you and your family.

  • www.bluelollipoproad.com

    You are awesome. Thanks for being one who knows that the single only scary thing in life is that time is short. Here’s to the road…

  • http://www.kuuleilani.wordpress.com Jasmine Eclipse

    This is beautiful. I wish I could say more than “beautiful,” but there’s really no other word to describe your touching story, your father’s incredible story and the lovely photos. This reminds me so much of my stepmom, who also lost her battle to cancer in 2012. Thank you for writing this. It’s so inspiring.

  • Hannah

    I just read through this post at work. Thank you for sharing. I enjoy reading your posts and this is indeed heartwarming. Your dad will always be with you and proud of you. Almost made me tear down at my desk. Life is short and unexpected, I strongly believe in that especially recently. I currently resigned from my stable job and time for my journey to pursue my dreams and hopefully to inspire others like you do.

  • Katherine

    Wow…you’re such a gifted writer. Can’t believe what you’ve gone through. My grandfather also had stomach cancer. He died a year after I was born, but at that time my family was in America, and he still lived in China and my parents hadn’t had time to go back and visit him. So I never knew him, and I can’t say I miss him because I never knew him. But I can only imagine how hard it would be in someone like yours or my mom’s position. I don’t even know the point of this comment but your posts are inspiring.

  • Hapinesswherever

    Sorry to hear about your Dad. He sounds amazing!

  • http://tartineandapronstrings.com/ Jen Laceda

    I couldn’t stop the tears from falling. Beautiful story. My background is Chinese, so I ‘get’ that culture of sacrifice and hard work. I’m sure your father is extremely proud of you, and he’s in a place right now where he is living his dreams :) Hopefully as a travelling pro golfer :)

  • http://itsjpei.wordpress.com/ Jessica

    Wow, thanks for sharing your story. It must’ve taken a lot of courage to write and share this to the whole world wide web. It was truly touching and inspiring – God bless <3


  • Andrea

    a big bow to your Father.

  • http://thesunshinetoker.com Amanda Cabe

    What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing such a personal story and for inspiring “us” to embrace this crazy thing we call life! I am inspired and humble to embrace my life and do more with what I have in front of me. I am a new fan/follower and look forward to future posts!

  • Maja

    Ahh this has resonated with me thank you. My dad died 4 years ago, also losing a fight with cancer and it was like reading my story through you. It still cuts like a knife through me, everyday.

  • Laurie Gerard Baeder

    I just had to comment about this post about your father. It was so inspiring and so beautifully written. I lost my father when he was 52 also, to throat cancer and sometimes it still feels like yesterday. How wonderful though that you are following your dreams and living your life to the fullest! Best of luck in all you do!

  • Jennifer

    I just recently lost my father a few weeks ago, and I am around the same as you were when you lost your dad. Thank you for writing this beautiful blog and testimonial to your father, it gives me great comfort to read it.

  • http://www.misselizawonderland.com misselizawonderland

    I am so saddened, yet at the same time I believe he’d be very happy for you to chase your dreams, and to do what you love. Thank you for the inspiration and wake-up.


    Miss Eliza WonDerland

  • Ashley S

    I love this story. You were my favorite on House of DVF & I was so happy to find your blog. I am a fellow blogger based in Miami. My family came here for the “American Dream” too, from Cuba & Armenia. I love your honesty and writing style. You are fabulous, never give up writing! Your dad is looking down & is proud of you. If you get a chance please check out my site (:
    { http://www.itsapashion.com } xoxo!

  • Allyson Altimore Johnson

    Thank you.

  • Andreea

    My father died from colon cancer stage 4 two months ago. I can tell he was very much like your father, due to the fact that even though he went to chemotherapy and radiotherapy every second week, he still smiled through the pain. He thought every day was a blessing and lived each one like it was his last one. I loved how you told the story of Bob, it gets people to really understand what cancer is in a simple way. Thanks for sharing it. I’m sure your father is watching you from above and is taking care of you. I love your story about him and I’m sure he is blessed to have a daughter like you. God bless you and your family!

  • MissingMyDad!! :(

    I read you’re story because my father died march 19 and I am having the hardest time ever, I have no other family that cares or offers to help me. I lived with him all of my life and now I haven’t got anywhere to go or no one to help me or even care about me. I am on limited income so I can’t afford a place to live, I don’t know what to do, I am just so sad, and at times I wish it was me instead of him. His death has by far been the hardest thing I have ever been through so maybe with reading you’re story and other peoples stories maybe I will be able to figure out what to do next. Sorry for the rant but I am alone and needed to get some of my many feelings out. I am sorry about you’re father he seemed special and very kind from what you wrote about him!! Thanks!

  • http://www.hedgefundgirl.blogspot.co.uk/ Hedge Fund Girl

    This was an incredible, moving post, your father would be so so proud of you x